No no…my house is not haunted nor have I been possessed by a ghost.

Ghosting in our fast-paced technology savvy world means ‘to disappear without communication’ — vanishing into thin air after being in constant touch.

Another pandemic that’s been giving me goosebumps.

Clients can ghost you, prospective employers can ghost you, employees are good at it, your best friends can do it & so can your partners — no warning signs, no goodbyes — just a disappearing act that can rob you of your peace of mind & self-esteem.

Alhough the term is new the act per se is…


Writers can be exhausting people to be with.

Writers can be difficult to understand.

They live in their own world and the only glimpses of their world you will get is through their words.

They are broody and moody and see everything that happens around them with only one perspective in mind — how do I write my next story, post or book based on what I just saw or experienced?

They care deeply about the rights and wrongs — black and white — and all the shades in between — they will not talk about it though — they…


When you feel uninspired and spirit less…

When you feel like everything and everyone is working against you…

When you feel tired and your mind is filled with excuses…

When you feel like the powers above have forsaken you…

When you feel like your soul is too heavy a burden to carry and you quiver with fear at every moment…

When you feel like the world has forgotten you…

When you feel like you are haunted by every mistake you have ever made…

When you feel suffocated by every bad decision you have made…

When you feel like time is…


A big fan of one of our greatest ever Indian film stars, Dev Anand, I have indulged myself by binge watching all his movies during the lockdown. So much so that the monotony of housework never got to me because I had him by my side. I would prop up my phone on the counter next to the kitchen sink while washing the utensils and cooking as I danced and sang along with the most charismatic man I have seen on screen.

His films had it all — fun, wit, humour, pain — the classic everlasting songs — the beautiful…


Something I feel very strongly about and felt the need to share with you all…something disturbing, very basic but seen only rarely.

Question: Do you think there is intelligent life on other planets?

Answer: I don’t think there is intelligent life on ‘this’ planet.

This dialogue on a TV show I was watching recently put my grey cells into a spiral and I am still trying to find my way out of it. What’s wrong with the human species is what comes to the mind again and again. …


My son in his 12th grade, in his most emotionally vulnerable phase, confused with the many choices and decisions he needs to make, laments to us every day.

Faced by options aplenty, he feels dizzy and disoriented, clueless about his future.

Various internet sources estimate that an adult makes about 35,000 remotely conscious decisions each day

In contrast a child makes about 3,000.
(Sahakian; Labuzetta, 2013).

That’s 3000 too many I say.

We talk to him, hoping our guidance and advice will help of course.

There are hundreds of other online resources with advice too.

But as we all know…


A wedding I just attended in the family was more like a project a CEO of a company has just announced.

A wedding is a project with every team and members of those teams deeply invested in the project — in this case the future of two people who are entering a new contract with everything on the line.

Attending a wedding in normal times is hectic & stressful as it is; doing so in a pandemic is stuff horror movies are based on.

But gladly it wasn’t.

Last month in the dreaded year 2020, when I attended my nephew’s…


I couldn’t sleep. Tossing and turning in the bed I mulled over why the thoughts wouldn’t stop yapping at me letting me finally shut my eyes and get some much needed sleep. There was a knot in my stomach which I couldn’t unknot as I tried my best to unravel the threads I had tied around myself which as always were threatening to drown me in misery.

In some ways I am used to being like this. Almost a daily occurrence for a person who is highly sensitive. And if you are one of those unfortunate people who like me…


Do you know the corona virus can’t make us sick anymore let alone kill us?

Well, I wasn’t.

The world has opened up almost completely and if the traffic on the roads and the people in restaurants and public places are anything to go by it seems like everything is back to normal.

With the lockdowns gone, so is the virus, the masks and the social distancing norms.

And while I agree panicking about is also not good, dismissing it after months of freaking about it is something I don’t quite get.

The virus came calling on our family’s door…


I have never been a winner. I have had the distinct misfortune of never winning any medals, honours, awards or laurels in any form whatsoever. It has also been to my not so great dissatisfaction that I have never ever stood first in anything, be it, school results, debate competitions, dance completions, sports competitions and so on and so forth.

What I am trying to say here is that not being a champion at anything since childhood has not really bothered me so much that I was totally frustrated with my life until some years ago when I hit midlife.

Nirja Sharma

An individual full of contradictions can only hope that life in words will pave a way for a harmonious yet challenging life.

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